Stop living in the past.

We know the past is gone and there isn't much we can do about it, yet we spend considerable amount of time thinking of the past, and often wish things could have been different and better. Everyone does it not without their own good reasons. To some, recalling a past event still causes them emotional or mental suffering or distress. For others, it’s a feeling of pleasure or deep affection for a period in the past.

Most often we feel a lot of anger towards someone for something they did to us or for their failure to do something for us. It could have made an enormous difference to our life if they had not done or had done that something for us. Or one of or both our parents treated us very badly as a child. Whatever the reason, we are unforgiving and that precisely is the reason that a past event can engross our mind to the exclusion of other thoughts. That is unhealthy mentally unless we learn to forgive and free ourselves.
There are times we harbour a feeling of sadness and guilt about something we did or something we didn't do. We disclosed to a friend some highly personal information which we later regretted telling. Or we delayed our last monthly visit to our mother and she passed away before we could visit her. Since then, we have been feeling the sharp pang of regret for delaying the visit as if we knew beforehand of her impending demise. Such feelings of guilt and sorrow can only continue to haunt us for as long as we remember or think of it.
What is done cannot be undone. What is done happened in the past and the past cannot be undone. By looking to the past, we are perpetuating our mental pain. It’s perfectly all right to learn from the past but it is certainly not so to be obsessed by events in the past. We continue to be a helpless victim if we allow something that took place in the past to be the main thought in our mind, causing other things to be forgotten. If you believe in living your life to the full, it is the now that is important; the past doesn't matter any more.
It is acceptable to go back to the past and enjoy those happy moments. Some tunes make you remember past events. They really bring back vivid memories of, say, an evening you spent strolling along a beach with a friend who was very dear to you. Having a feeling of pleasure however should not at the same time be to the extent of causing you to feel a slight sadness or arousing your feelings in an exaggerated way about things that happened in the past.
In order not to let the past be a source of pain to you, you need to forgive others and yourself. You vow to avoid repeating your past mistakes. At the same time, you forget all the old grudges and never again to harbour a grudge against anyone. Forgiveness frees you from needless suffering caused by mental and emotional pain. Stop yourself from living in the past and concentrate on the present moment which is all you have now to lead a happy and healthy life.

There is a solution to every problem

There is a solution to very problem and if you hold a genuine belief in this, there is a greater likelihood that you will find the solution. People who find solutions to problems are those who firmly believe that solutions exist for every problem.

When confronted with a problem, do you give up or delegate it to someone else to solve? Or do you persist in resolving the problem yourself or find a way around it or seek alternative route? Really believing that you can find a solution to every problem and actually doing it gives you immense advantage. It is habit forming and you are highly likely to overcome nearly all if not all the problems you are faced with.

Encountering problems is all part and parcel of living. So if you are fully convinced that a solution exists for every problem, every problem is no longer a problem to you. Your firmly held belief gives you the edge over other people. There will be no barrier to your steady progress in life. Identify the main core of the problem or the root cause of it. Once identified, the problem virtually ceases to be an unsolvable problem and does not require considerable effort to eliminate. The process of living would become a smooth flow. You stand to gain quite a lot by constantly holding onto this belief.

If the great inventors and great men of discoveries did not believe they could be successful, would they do it? Problems serve as feedbacks that enable success to be achieved. Problems contribute to the learning process of attaining a desirable end. In fact, many a successful man will admit that every problem is an opportunity. It however depends very much on one’s perception.

If you continually focus your attention only on successful outcome, chances are you tend to attract more of it. If you focus exclusively on failures, you will meet with failure. If you concentrate hard on seeking a solution to a problem and seriously believe you will find it, you will sooner or later get it. Your thinking does make a world of difference to the kind of result you will get when beset with a problem.

There's no problem without solution.

Welcome to my blog, (www.chanjoon.blogspot.com). If you are looking for solutions of your problems then you are in right place. Generally, in life, everyone has problems. There's no one in the world that is living without problem. But there are many ways to get out of problems. Just remember one thing, as we all know, there's no locker without any key and there's no problem without any solutions. The fact is, for some, it takes a bit longer than other to get reached to the solution and for some people, it takes only a little time.